Wednesday, June 30, 2021

EMBRACE ALL

With Pride month closing in today, it has been a different experience from others. Having talked to many different members of the LGBTQ lately, and hearing views and thoughts, I know more then ever we have to move out of our little clicks and broaden our circles and embrace all. When the Banana Republic queens look down on the freaky clubs kids, or the fem guys,  or the jock queens name call the trans walking in, or a married couple looks down on a slutty singleton, or the couple who is trupled, we have problems.

When the community was developing in the 60's and 70's, we were just glad to have a community. We weren't trying to bash other member of the community. But then and now our trans brothers and sisters were, and still, are not treated well by the more bougie gay men, who kind of took the movement and ran with it, who in reality was started by the trans and drag members. Look, were a tiny community...maybe 10 -12 percent...there's a lot of people that don't like us. I really wish we could stick together. Some days, I feel were at each others throats with the pronouns and this and that, this one is to fem, this one is too freaky, this one is to butch.  It makes me think when I heard of AIDS from older friends of mine... and the tragedy that happened,  and the lives it took from just having a act of sexual expression. but the tragedy brought us together. Even though the lesbians, who weren't as susceptible of catching HIV, stuck right there with us. Yet, I sadly know gay men who won't hang with a lesbian, which I find incredibly sad and mentally limited. I hate to say this, but is there a need for some tragedy to bring us back together? Because sadly we are not together.  I sadly don't see much of a gay movement these days. Yeah there is the HRC but they have been known to endorse many Republicans and seem more like a business. I feel us gays have gotten really, really comfortable, we're rightly scared of a Republican regime, and lets be honest, we fell asleep in the Obama years. If we don't keep making demands we won't get anything. Yes, we got gay marriage, but now that we got that goal,  we need to work on equal rights for us all.  In half the states many of us can be fired for being LGBTQ,  denied housing for being LGBTQ... denied medical attention for being LGBTQ...and now trans can be banned from taking part in sports, and told what bathroom they need to use. Where's the demands? I just don't see the demands, I don't hear people demanding these things loudly. I see the gays running around being politically involved, with #this and # that.  Well I'm sorry,  that is not a legislative agenda. Were too comfortable. Are the ones leading these groups not worried about getting kicked out of their homes because they have money, or they have big power jobs that pay well? We need to care about the less fortunate of the community, and all of us, which is what the trans and drag queens who started the Stonewall riots were saying. So are we going to be  bougie movement or a bold movement for all the LGBTQ.  I say we need to be very bold. Be loud, Be fierce. Marsha P Johnson and Sylvia Rivera got this. This quote from Marsha sums it up. "History isn't something you look back at and say it was inevitable, it happens because people make decisions that are sometimes very impulsive and of the moment, but those moments are cumulative realities. You never completely have your rights, one person, until you ALL have your rights." 

Take it from this freak. Love yourself and embrace others. 

And always be yourself. Don't let anyone take that away or your right to be yourself

Embrace your Gay Pride.

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  1. "When the Banana Republic queens look down on the freaky clubs kids, or the fem guys, or the jock queens name call the trans walking in, or a married couple looks down on a slutty singleton, or the couple who is trupled, we have problems."
    rAmen, sister.
    And Marsha was right, those impulsive decisions become realities. People need to remember how to fight because there's too much complacency nowadays. The haters are still there. We are a small minority infighting is not a choice.
    Also, love your hat. And those shorts!!! Legz for dayz

    XOXO

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    1. My one strength good or bad, is my impulsive decisions.

      My shirt says it. Love for you and all! The shorts may say something else.

      πŸ’—πŸ§‘πŸ’›πŸ’šπŸ’œπŸ’™

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  2. I've never understood some of the "otherness" in the LGBTQ+ community. We should all stand with and for one another, always. That's how we've gotten the rights we've gotten the last decade or so, and we shouldn't stop until we ALL are equal in the eyes of the law.
    Fuck society, that may never happen, but the law? Fight!

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  3. Lots of fab images here, Mistress! And you're right -- there's too much factionalism within our LGBTQ+ community and we need to get over it! Happy Pride, today and always!

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  4. Even at my age, I'm still learning the 'ins and outs' of my community. It is ever evolving.

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    1. And i think that the key my friend...ever evolving and your open to it.

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  5. Thanks!.... The green speedo? I'll take one of those.

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    1. That's Steve Grand. Such a sweet heart.

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  6. Honestly, behind the sometime cold, but hilarious exterior of the Mistress lies a brilliant and well-informed mind. I agree many of us have gotten WAY TO comfortable. While we may celebrate I feel the community is way more divided then it's been in some time.

    And I have to say your own picture gives me life! That hat! Those legs! Those heels!

    Excellent post

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    1. We did get comfortable in the Obama years. I liked him but he did make me question a few things he did. And even with Obama he broke bread with some religious groups that did not condone the LGBT....your with us or not.

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  7. You made some bold statements that need to be heard. Excellent post! Being on the trans side of things I feel loved and welcomed by by my peeps, and can admit I don't feel the comfort and welcomes of the whole community. I get the "eyes" still when I enter one of our places, or I will hear the Did she used to be a man? I think more people should do what you have done this month. I love having friends from all parts of the community and just people in general. Why limit yourself...I love a good spice rack!

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    1. I used to hear the pretty boys at the pool sometimes make cracks about the trans girls walking in...and it would anger me...till I said she would probably go on to contribute more to the community then them.

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  8. As the old straight biddy, I have to say this post got to me, in tears, to see the variety of people in your community. Shame there are not more that get it. I can sense your furstation and worry in this from your words. William and I always loved our diverse circle of friends. Hell, we even had club kids to the house once for meals when we used to go out. The neighbors I know would be appalled, but who cares. They were more friends to us them the straights. You may be silly and shocking sometimes, but your fabulous and are with it. Your a very intresting person.

    And as a reminder...I still want that hat!

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    1. I'll see if I have a box big enough.

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  9. I love this! And when you speak truth straight from the heart. The part of being at each others throat over now over simple things...I wish that kids would read that part. And the # thing. Your right it does nothing, that is not a legislative plan...what's needed is action.

    I am living for out freak outfit! And I just bet you'd wear that down the street too. Those legsWere you a Rockette?

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  10. All so true, Mads. The Obama years brought complacency. Very bad time for that - it was his term that brought the white supremacists and evilgelicals out of the closet. The former because a Black man was in the Oval Office, the latter because his justice department and courts ruled in favor of LGBTQ rights. It is time to join forces and get rid of the nasty asshats in congress who are determined to take us back to the 50s.

    (Love that white and green dress up there in the pics.)

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    1. For the life or me...I can't remember his name now.

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  11. I was GLUED to this! We need to hear more from the LGBT+ generations before us younger gays, we need to wake up and hear more of this...blunt and raw. I know I take for granted my rights, but we do need to embrace the whole community. Starting now.

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  12. Well said, my dear. This is not the time to sit back on our laurels and take everything for granted. Nor is it right for prissy assimilationist queens to look down their perfectly-groomed noses at the rest of us freaks! Jx

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    1. YASS hennny! We are have to be trifled with.

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    2. Your right Jon. Between this topic and our current adminastration...they best get more back bone....or we can kiss a lot good bye.

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  13. You said it henny! PREACH GIRL! So many voices that brought us to today and so few remember them or understand who they were. Fuck the hashtags...they look good on paper...we need passion and fire again and need to protect the right for us all!!!! Demand more of all the polictians including Biden. The post got me sad and mad as hell!

    Could you imagine the looks we'd get walking down the street with our get ups! You got more leg than a bucket of chicken henny!!!!!!!!! Did you dance?

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  14. I do believe I think I could listen to you talk to hours. On anything and everything.

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    1. Sadly these splits happen with all groups whether religious, political, parochial at al. There are people can't seem to bear that anyone should differ from them by one iota which is ridiculous as we are all different and yet, au fond, the same.

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  15. Absolutely fabulous post!! (I love your big hat.)

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  16. Pride Day and Month have grown so much in scope, as they should. Diversity. Freedom and joy in being yourself, whatever yourself means to you. I wish for a day when accepting difference is normal.

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  17. I applaud your sentiment. Every one of us needs to demand and BE BETTER. We need to fight the powers-that-be and not ease up until we have a more all-loving world.

    That header -- whoosh. It jumped into the 4-digits here.
    Love you, MM.

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    1. Come sit under the fans darling....cool down....

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  18. While it's so tempting to rest on one's laurels (or stilettos in your case, Mistress!), hard-won rights and freedoms can be easily lost. Complacency, apathy and in-fighting will only make it easier for Dick a L'Orange and his followers to divide and conquer LGBTQ+ communities in coming years.

    Thank you, Mistress Maddie -- you've brought a lot of beauty, laughter and glitter into my world! Happy Pride!

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    1. Your right....complacency has no spot...we can't let.

      What a lovely compliment Tundra!!! Im glad to make you feel happy...then..its been worth it. Happy Pride!

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  19. This is why I can't wait to hang out again. We have fun, but then always talk about the things we need to be talking about. It's not all about drama, or parties, and tearing down another person from our community. I always love the insightful, and informed conversations we have.

    And it doesn't hurt that you fill out your square cuts!

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  20. I love this!!!!! And so true! I would rather hear someone be brutally honest then sugar coat something. If I have to hear one more guy say he wants to either break it off or not start dating when they find out I do drag Ill scream!!!! There is so much more to me that drag. And not like im in drag 24/7!!!! This shit needs to stop, just because we live differently and some are more colorful.

    Your hide a side to you. I love when you are spitting facts and bringing receipts.

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  21. Ill never pass up one of your post when your bringing the fire, and serving political tea. And your right we did get comfortable, myself included. just because we're comfy and happy and accepted doesn't mean we all are. I need to do better.

    And the picture are touching...and you sure do know how to get my attention Mistress!!!!

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  22. What a way to close Pride month. Your viewpoint is always compelling and informed.

    And that hat?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

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  23. I hope people become more respectfully of ones life. Well we slowly moving that way.
    Coffee is on and stay safe

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  24. You make some lovely much-needed to hear points, my dear. Those who don't embrace all are destined to fall. WE must stand together... and we must be active. This year, more than any other, my heart has grown large enough to hold us all... I may not share every vision, every dream, or understand (though I know now I am capable)... but... and I keep going to this quote from a lovely song Melissa Manchester wrote... "we need gardens to grow in... and there must ALWAYS be room enough... for ALL OF US. Thanks for sharing your message of hope and love. My heart to you. Sparkle! Kizzes.

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    1. That is a great quote and holds true to this post. As we saw the ex first lady do.....she showed the current mood of the administration by covering the lively colorful gardens up at the White House. They don't want variety.

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  25. I, like Agnes am "an old, straight biddy" and I couldn't care less what's in people's pants, what they wear, what they enjoy doing!
    We are all just people. I have three children, all different and I love that fact. Eldest son has five kids, daughter two, youngest son is gay. He often says jokingly "I bet you're glad I'm gay mum. No more kids to look after!" πŸ˜‚

    Happy pride to all. Celebrate being alive. Xx

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    1. I love it!!!!! I'm glad to call you a friend! Maybe one day we can all see each other as just people.

      XOXO

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  26. The deeper the pockets, the easier it is to be complacent about LGBTQ rights. And that's a problem because the movement has often been led by impoverished people: teenage runaways, people who had lost their jobs due to their sexual orientations, and transgender people of color like Marsha, who would have been at the very bottom of the socioeconomic scale.

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    1. I should add that the "teenage runaways" more often than not were kicked out by their parents, but that's how they ended up getting classified.

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    2. I agree with your assessment Kirk. Many of my well to do friends give donations, which is great...but when it comes down to it, I feel the need to get back out visibly and loud will be needed again soon. Just because our wrist may hang limp, we don't have to be weak and be complacent with what we have achieved.

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  27. Hear hear! I just don't understand why anyone - especially someone already in a minority group - would belittle, reject, and hurt another person just for how they identify/look. It boggles the mind.

    Embrace All, indeed!

    P.S. Looking Fab in those final two photos, Mistress!

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    1. Thank you Mr Devine!!!!

      I agree, It's just like the BLM movement. All the black trans getting murdered and yet the rest of the community finds that acceptable? If your a minority community you need all hands on deck.

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  28. I recognize that I have privilege. I know there are those that struggle everyday. I have to fight for them. Those that have, must help those that don’t. Yes there is marriage equality, but that came about through a SCOTUS decision, and the present court could just as easily overturn it. The fight is not won, the battle continues.

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  29. *Hugs*
    Agreed, we should all stick together, yet embrace our individuality. It can be done.
    I always feel better about myself when I read one of your uniting posts.
    Sx

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    1. That is a nice compliment Scarlet. I sometimes think I might stir the pot to much.

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  30. Lovely thoughts and images. The 3rd is like an erotic ballet…and the last is divine (delightful white shorts)!

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  31. One of my favorite history podcasts opens with the mantra: 'remember nothing in history was inevitable'
    What the future is very dependent on what we do in the present.
    May we continue to be vigilant and work for good.
    The Great work begins - still apt.

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Go ahead darling, tell me something fabulous!