IN THE RAW

In the raw or as friends laugh at me al dente! Cards on the table...I'm a nude sleeper, or as I say I like to sleep al dente! I have no idea when it started but even at a young age I started sleeping in just briefs, but then even they went out the window, by middle school. In my mind, I view a day as being fresh, just born. So I like to come into the world each day naked and end the day naked again. I cannot stand anything on my body when I go to bed. I get hot, which I'm a hot-blooded person, and I can't stand the feeling of material pulling, wedging and feeling restricted. I have no idea how people sleep with socks on?? I have a friend who always has socks on and I told them that is not healthy. Our feet are not meant to be covered 24/7....being exposed and getting air is good for the feet and the whole body I feel. Soon as I get home, I'm barefoot. Even all of my partners and ex's, I can only recall two that slept in briefs...all the others were naked sleepers too. I also find it interesting, that almost all the women I know, more of them sleep naked then of all the men I know! What?!?!  Sleeping naked might not be the first thing you think about when it comes to improving your health, but some benefits are actually too good to ignore. Not to mention often spurs on sex. When Warbucks and I are together...we could be tired, but once I feel his huh, nice endowment touch my leg...sleep is off for a hot minute!!!

Did you know you fall asleep faster? Your body temperature is one key to how you fall asleep. Cooling down tells your body that it's time to sleep, and sleeping naked allows your body temp to go down as you can go to sleep faster, and more restful.

You also have better sleep quality. Not only does cooling down your body help you fall asleep, but it also improves your overall sleep quality. You sleep heavier I noticed. 

Another is it keeps your skin healthy. A study in 2018 found it improves your skin... and a small study group found that clothed poor sleep limited the skin's ability to heal even just small wounds faster. When the group was divided into three categories the group that slept naked was founded to have felt more rested and wounds would start healing faster, because the skin was not covered with mutli layers. It's also been found that sleeping naked reduces stress and anxiety.

For men sleeping naked is good. Not only do men get a number of erections in a night, but sleeping naked is better as PJ's and underwear restrict the movement of the cock, and turning over with a hard on is not too pleasant. Some men have even reported minor fractures. Just ask Pat in all his research for informative posts on this very subject. It's also suggested a link between wearing tight fitting underwear and lower sperm count and producing lower amounts of semen. Men who reported wearing boxers or sleeping nude had a higher sperm concentration and total sperm count in general, than those who wore underwear and pj's

Sleeping naked is also a great way to get in touch with your body and boost your self-esteem, which is definitely a win when it comes to embracing self-love. I know when I started sleeping naked, a saw my attitude change from being shy, and not noticing my body to caring to discovering it. 

And for me, I feel it's great for improving on a relationship. While sex can be great fun and hot, sleeping naked for me is the ultimate intimate thing to let yourself go to someone. For me I always sleep naked, whether it be with FWB'S, just friends, or my romantic partners...for me it is the ultimate bond and trust thing for me. It shows just how relaxed and bonded I'm with someone. And with my boyfriends or romantic partners sleeping naked can be wonderful. It's been discovered that skin to skin contact stimulates the release of oxytocin, which plays an important role in building attachment between partners. And let's be honest being spooned or spooning my partner naked is one of my favorite things...just lying there, naked, in the moment just "being".

Since sleeping naked is pretty easy to try, it might be time to strip down and get your snooze on. How do you sleep at night??? 

But don't take my word for it.

And yes, I'm willing to sleep naked with Jose.

CARLOTTA, THE BINGO QUEEN

Another part of the Mistress's early gay years comes to an end. The legendary flapper girl bobbed, redheaded drag queen, and Philadelphia legend, Carlotta Tendant is putting away the Bingo balls and hanging up the heels. A sad day for Philly indeed. Across almost four decades Carlotta has called hundreds of games all while performing tomfoolery, eliciting laughs, along with wise cracks, a pinch of profane and a healthy dose of silliness, all while being donned in anything from retro looks to Chicago musical looks, to Eva Gabor gowns and sensible high heels. In that time and fun Carlotta has managed to raise almost over $5 million for people living with AIDS/HIV, and numerous gay charities, and helped steer a community through crisis, providing a respite to those experiencing immense loss and stigma. This swan song came to the closing of the cities 30th season of Pride month, The man behind Carlotta, Micheal  Byrne hung up his heels, packed the wig and bid adieu to his drag persona and his longtime gig hosting Philly's Gay Bingo. Now at 65 arthritis stifles her strut in stilettos and says drag is a young girl's game. 

Even as medicine has advanced and HIV/AIDS has become manageable, she's crafted a safe place for years for Philadelphia's queers. For one night each month for over 30 years she's been an entertainer and equalizer, responsible for uniting gay and straight alike. When I first moved to the Philadelphia about the only two queens I can recall were her and Brittany Lynn and have such fond memories of both of them...everyone knows Carlotta! All I can say is thank you Carlotta for all the good you have done for future queens, who have up and came, and coming, and all the tremendous things who have brought about for the community...$5 mil ain't bad for a queen in a bob calling bingo. It's going to be really different without Carlotta. No one's going to fill her heels, but I think that the vibe and her energy is going to live on.

A short snippet from the news.

MEANWHILE AT THE CASA....

 My neighbor washes his car dressed like this...

It's a good thing I like birds and they trust me. I like to catch them, and make them shit on his car.

MOOD BOARD

The weekend went by much too fast. The Lad was here for the weekend, so you know not much got done around here, except for me. And with yesterday's rains, it was even a lazier day. He has gone on to NJ to visit with family for a week before we head to a weekend in Fire Island and then head to Ptown for a week coming up soon...so I have barely made a dent on my list making of what I want to pack. Oh hell with it. How hard can it be to throw some square cuts, a few tees, a pair or two of hot shorts and some skincare in a brown bag????

Have a great Monday all!