Sundays around here are usually about Brunch with the clan. I tend to go twice a month. I do like myself I good "sleep in" the other three Sundays. Today, the Russian and I went to meet the clan for some Bloody Marys and some Eggs Benedict and all the usual gossip. And boy did the surrounding tables get a hearful. Somehow the topic came up about two being company ,and is three a crowd, and monogamous relationships. Most at the table felt monogamy isn't possible, and feel that in the gay world, no matter how committed a couple appears to be, or how beautiful their life together looks, or even how perfect they seem, there always seems to be the threat of infidelity lurking in the background. and men don't really seem interested in sticking with just one person. The one guy at the table revealed that he is having some difficulties with his partner, who recently cheated. The other gay clan around the table began to laugh and suggested that he just wait. They told him that once he gets older, he will understand that we men generally can't be monogamous. They weren't arguing that it isn't possible, because there are those rare birds who never cheat in any way, but that monogamy may be too much to ask of anyone, and that everyone will have moments of lust or desire, and that engaging in sexual activities outside the relationship doesn't mean that you love your partner any less.
Then it came to me. The colorful one most times. In most my cases, when in a committed relationship it was between just me and my partner, but in one case we did open the bedroom door for some kink with a third. But being on both side of the fence, I though it better to be the lucky Pierre going in, then part of the couple. If I'm committed, I generally like it being just me and that person only. My one friend gave me a look of quite surprise... like I was Robespierre loping off the head of Marie Antoinette You say this while dating three guys? And then he added my triad relationship I had years ago, but that's another story. I explained when the boy- toy and I split up after 10 years, I didn't want to settle back down right away, and now, I'm not in a exclusive relationship, plus I'm honest with my partners up front as to how much I want to offer right now. but the debate continued if men could be monogamous or not. The one couple at the table love each other deeply but both have side action and are honest with each other when it happens and also have a open bedroom. Others at the table had a problem with that. So it seemed at the table everybody was all across the table on the issue of monogamy in gay relationships and can men in general, gay or straight, be monogamous and what about the threesomes issue. Is it better to have them together or do a separate thing?
I said all I know is when I'm commited, I'm commited. But right now, I won't lie, I enjoy the company of men, and good old fashion flirting is healthy. so there, that's it. I went back to enjoying my Bloody Mary. What do you think? Can men really be monogamous? And does it matter if there is real love and trust? In some cases sex is just sex, was their point.