Thursday, January 8, 2026

HARLOW


Children, if you're in the LGBTQ community, unless you lived under a rock, or very young, then you most likely know who Rachel Harlow is. This legendary drag queen and tran woman, originally from South Philly, first appeared in the 1969 documentary The Queen, which I highly recommend viewing, especially if you want to see a drag show and competition like no other, where many legends started and many taglines and manners were born... and one where she got read for filth by co-legend queen Crystal LaBeija, when Rachel Harlow won the show and many thought it was because of her being white...of course Crystal left the system and started her own shows, which was the start of ballroom. But unlike the short life Crystal had, Rachel Harlow...better known as just Harlow the world over went on to have a glorious life.

After a brief stint in Hollywood where she made one movie with Jack Nicholson, she returned to her hometown, opened Philly's first and greatest Disco of the city Harlow's and was feted by the local press and treated like one of the city's most exciting citizens. She appeared on talk shows and did modeling. Her gender confirmation surgery made huge headlines. Then she made even bigger headlines again when she entered a very public relationship with Princess Grace of Monaco's brother Jack Kelly,, who was a local golden boy and a city councilman. His political opponents, his mother and Princess Grace all threatened to make a big stink about the relationship and after time they split up. They were quite the couple from recounts

There's much more to her story. After the relationship feel apart with Jack Kelly, Harlow fell mostly out of the public eye after that or rather walked away from it. Eventually Harlow's closed, and she took a job at the perfume counters of the legendary John Wanamaker's. It wasn't till 1989, a Philadelphia Inquirer article popped up, of an update she had married chef/baker Gerard Billebault in 1980 and took his name, opening a restaurant, again called Harlow's, with him in 1988. However, the restaurant closed in 1993, and their marriage ended alongside it. 

Who knows all the intricacies of what she experienced in the gay world, in the gay bars, in the straight bars, in the drag contest green rooms and hotels, in the banquettes at Harlow's or at the parfumerie...but finally... the Philadelphia Inquirer has said a memoir might be finally coming and is only in the proposal stage. It will be the first time she's spoken about her life in over thirty years. The memoir would promise the ups and downs of living a public life as a trans woman over fifty years ago, and will no doubt spills some beans and backstory of all the exciting things she experienced. She seems ready to tell her story finally at almost 80. I saw where she recently commented she quite rightly feels there's power in reminding people that a city like Philadelphia embraces and continues to embrace trans women and the trans community for over a half century and they elevated her as one of its leading citizens, in a time when it wasn't acceptable. Sometimes a trailblazer is a trailblazer simply because she was brave enough to demand a life on her own terms. It's bound to be an excellent page turner.

24 comments:

  1. PREACH!
    Thanks much for this, Mads. It’s of outmost importance that we know where is it we are coming from. Trans people and BIPOC LGBTQ people have always been at the forefront of our rights.

    Looking forward to her memoir!

    XOXO

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    1. Thanks Six! I can't wait! It may be the best memoir I will read since I read about Barbette, one of the greatest drag queens at Folies Bergere.

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  2. I am aware of the film the Queen, but never saw it, and had no idea who she was. An interesting person, indeed - and a few parallels with our own, dearly departed April Ashley... Jx

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    1. I must watch the Queen at least once a year. These women like Harlow, April Ashley, Christine Jorgeson, Holly Woodlawn and Candy Darling, and the below comment of Carney Conn were so groundbreaking. And what role models. Nice to know some of them are still with us.

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  3. Anonymous1/08/2026

    Harlow, our royalty in Philadelphia.
    Her relationship with Jack Kelly was so scandalous at the time, and yet today we have a convicted rapist and felon running our country.
    So glad to see she may publish a memoir and is speaking out.
    Another who should come back to us is Canary Conn. These ladies need to come forward and remind everyone being trans has been around for a long time, and shame the bigots among us.
    An Old Philadelphian

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    1. What surprised me most about the Jack Kelly and Harlow dating was the backlash. Why can't people be who they are and love who they want to love? The Kelly's I surmise didn't want to jeopardize Grace Kelly becoming a Princess....but even she acted shameless as everyone else. And like others have commented, she herself had no room to talk with all her adultery in Hollywood. I also agree about the times. It's heartbreaking to see the country in it's current state.

      But isn't it nice to know Harlow is still with us in Philly? I hope her memoir materializes. And I agree about Canary! You're the first person I have ever heard mention her name.

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  4. What a fascinating woman! Ms. Harlow's memoir is on my book list now.

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    1. Keep your fingers crossed. I'll keep you posted when the book hits.

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  5. I remember her specifically from “The Queen.” Thanks for sharing. This should be fascinating.

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    1. Such a camp documentary...and who knew what was to spawn out of a result from the film! I mean, when you think of it, and Crystal's tirade and starting ball, years later we got the film Paris is Burning.

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  6. What a legend! I hope she DOES write her promised memoirs, holding nothing back! What a book that would be!

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    1. I agree! It would be worth reading her take and observations on Crystal LaBeija alone.

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  7. And then, no doubt, a film. (I hope.)

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  8. I would love to read her story in her words!!!

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    1. When I saw the Queen and even up to the present, I had no idea about her life after Jack Kelly, so the read will be a treat to read. I hope it comes about.

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  9. If she were to publish her memoirs, I’d be first in line to buy it. I can recall when I was younger and living through all this, and right up till the affair with Jack Kelly was going on, Harlows closed and she severed me more than once at Wanamaker's. She was always so welcoming. Funnily at the time I did not know about The Queen. Now here we are...I'm at 84 and having flashbacks of all this. When I read about how Grace Kelly didn't accept the affair, Jacks affairs in general, I lost any affection and respect for her....one who slept with half the men of Hollywood. So she was in no position to tell her brother about anything.

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    1. I love it Agnes! It's so cool to think about how many people now know about the Queen. I bet they never thought the film would get so much attention so many years later. When you think of it, at current time, we have no idea what we are living through till years later. Like for instance when she served you at the perfume counter, you had no idea of The Queen film.

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  10. This is excellent!!!! I will be watching the Queen in a different light. I can remember when I was younger and still at home with my parents, we dined at her restaurants with her then husband. Who went to Harlow's restaurant? It was the most gorgeous place- with Harlow's own china and lush leopard print fabric chairs amidst a white grand room! Unfortunately, it closed too soon, but for those who experienced it- unforgettable. At that time, who know I'd find out about her in The Queen?!?!

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  11. Have always loved this lady. Id purposely walk through the old Wannamaker's to see & speak to her at her counter. So glad this legend is still here to tell the tale. Like some people it wasn't till much later I'd find out she was in the film The Queen. So glad she is with us.

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  12. As a trans woman, Rachael Harlow’s life is a testament to strength, compassion, and grace. She moved through this world with a heart that touched everyone lucky enough to know her. Her kindness was never loud, but it was powerful — shown in the way she listened, supported, and lifted others up. Rachael lived her truth with courage, faced challenges with dignity, and loved with a depth that will continue to inspire all of us. Her life reminds us that the greatest legacies are not measured in years, but in the love and impact make. And yes, I watch the Queen at least once a year girl.

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  13. I'd like to read her memoir.

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  14. Boy when you think about it, Philadelphia has really played a huge part in not only the history of the country but has always been on the cutting edge of gay rights and acceptance. I have always found it one of the most welcoming cities. Have always enjoying visits to the city, and I would certainly read her memoir with pride.

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  15. Alana Rossi1/09/2026

    Can’t wait to read it when it arrives! I remember Harlow in the earlier years. We would go to Rittenhouse Square.. back then they called her Twiggy! Then she became Harlow…I worked at the Federal Reserve Bank in late 60’s, she would walk down Chestnut Street at 10th. The men would stand outside at lunchtime…she would walk, by in the winter in her fox coat, and they would go GAGA over her! She was a beautiful, classy lady!

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  16. I knew a little about her, but not the whole story. I will look for the book! Thanks! Rade

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