Wednesday, October 9, 2024
HEIRLOOMS
Tuesday, May 28, 2024
TALE OF A KICKED GRANDFATHER
With Memorial Day yesterday, we had several family members here for a family cook out. My Uncle Jack and many of his kids were here. It wasn't long before we were regaling stories of my late Aunt Barbara and my mother parents. It wasn't but 2 years maybe before my aunt's passing away, that she dropped one of her famous family history bombs. Like the one where she told how we are descendants of Aaron Burr. Being I have an elephant memory; I have become the teller of some of the stories. Since we were talking of some of the past veterans in the family and my Uncle Jack being in the army himself, I was talking about how my maternal grandfather had been rejected by his first wife. Most were in shock! Like me, they hadn't any idea there was a first wife. I myself shocked when I learned about it. I just assumed he and my grandmother were married only once. Turns out when he was a private in World War I, after three years, he was discharged after a donkey had kicked him hard in the upper thigh and yes...testicles!!! Upon returning home, his first wife, Carmalita, from what I read, and was told, was a stunning Latina, but very hot tempered. Apparently, it was already a scandal with his family, he hadn't married a white girl, but I digress. Upon follow up checkups with medical professionals, my grandfather learned he would never be able to produce semen for kids; he was told to much damage to the gonads. He was heartbroken as he knew Carmalita wanted kids. Sadly, upon learning about it, she left my grandfather and filed for divorce. It was two years later, that a mutual friend, a shop owner, said he knew a swell Czechoslovakian lady from West Virgina who had just emigrated. You know, the best thing for an old love is a new love, thing. Well, the shop owner passed my grandfather's info along to my grandmother. Before long, they were corresponding in the mail for over a year, finally met once for a week visit, and decided to marry. They were married for over 50 years, had a 19-year age difference and had 6 children.
I guess he didn't shoot blanks after all. And I would have loved to know what Carmalita thought had she heard the news. On a side note, my own parents had a 20-year age difference and met on a blind date, and were married for 33 years till he passed.
Friday, May 17, 2024
BLUE ITALIAN
Now you're probably wondering what this queen is up too posting about bone China. No... it's not about an Asian trick with some hard bone!!! That's my date next week. In a post the other day when I featured a chuckle about my new dinnerware arriving, Debs made a comment about it looking like that of the dinnerware from the scene in the Birdcage. If I recall, I remember the characters all trying to first distract the guest of the subject matter of the pattern and coming up with stories about the pattern and scene. It brought back memories of years of debate and talk over my late aunt, the good chef...her own dinnerware. She and my uncle got a beautiful dinnerware collection when they married, over 70 years ago from Spode, called Blue Italian.
Sunday, May 7, 2023
A MEMORIAL
Yesterday we were able to have some closure and a lovely memorial service on a beautiful if chilly afternoon, for my talented yet wildly and wickedly humorous cousin. We were always close as we were close in age to many of the others. He was the son of my late favorite aunt who was one of my role models. He passed on in September, a very unexpected and abrupt death, and one due to an exploded liver from cirrhosis, caused by a drink problem. He had been doing AA and counselling, but he kept the drinking so well hidden to everyone, when we had though he had it under control. We all agreed we wished we could have seen more signs or did more to help him. He was excellent at masking things. He thought of everyone else first... and made everyone laugh, even thought it was evident in the last days, he had been in a dark place. Darker than any of us knew. The family, his siblings, all 6, and their families from California, Texas, Washinton, Alaska, Colorado Mass, Maine, and DC, as well as friends and musicians from far and wide all showed up to join us. It was great hearing and sharing the stories we had not heard of him. We had no idea he was even in contact with friends from music school days still. Even two college friends attended. One of my uncle's students he taught at the time was even present. We held it in nature, at a park across the street from where my uncle Jack's house. We all came together to share our stories, the good and the bad and the sad, we listened to his music, drank ,ate, read favorite poems, and one friend of his even sang a song. The quartet he belonged too played his favorite... the Second movement of Beethoven's String Quartet, Opus 132.